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Being a Good Finder

Would you rather be around someone who makes you feel good , encourages you to be your best self?


Would you rather be around a person who tells you all your faults?

The choice is yours!

It takes work to have a happy successful life!

What words are you putting in your mind?

When babies come into the world they begin with blank pages! 

You carefully teach them the good positive things.

Like a new born baby, be careful what you write on “your” pages!

The words you speak to yourself are powerful! 

 Stop and think- before you open your mouth! Curve those lips up and then speak and say positive motivating words.

Words have power! Always start by saying something positive to yourself and others.

Choose your words wisely. It’s all about what you are putting into your mind!

Be careful what you write on your blank pages!

What are you eating ?

Are you eating food that is good for your body?

Or ,

Are you eating junk food?

Are you creating intentional time in your day to think where you want to go?

It’s all about being a lifter! Being intentional about saying positive encouraging words , powerful words,to yourself and others!

Zig Ziglar says, “be a good finder not a fault finder.” He suggests making a list of all the things you like, admire, and appreciate about your job, your mate, family members, and friends. Then enthusiastically verbalize these things in front of a mirror each morning and evening.”

Ziglar continues, “The more you emphasize the good qualities, of your family, friends and associates the more good qualities you will find to like or love. As a result, you will treat your family members, friends, and associates with more respect, courtesy, and appreciation. Your relationships will improve and be more meaningful and happier.”

Be a builder of yourself and compliment others .

When you speak to yourself, self-talk, say positive, enthusiastic, and inspiring words that will motivate you and uplift you beginning your day and before bedtime.

Change your attitude to one of gratitude.

Diely Pichardo -Johansson, M.D. and Life Coach in her new book, “Bouncing Back: A How To Manual For Joy With Minimal Energy Expenditure”, says

” The most effective self-lifting tool in the world is a “Gratitude Journal.” She has “shared this with her patients and the doctors in the support group she runs; they reported amazing results.”

Every day write down what went well for you.  She says, every day,” write the entries in positive terms. For example: “I am grateful for my delicious coffee this morning. I am grateful for my son’s hug. I am grateful for my A/C because it keeps me cool and comfortable in the summer heat. Commit it to writing 5 things your grateful for. Keep it fresh. Write original entries. Savor it, in full sentences, and add Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.”

She says, “Every night before bed, I remind myself of things that made me happy, and that quickly evolved to giving thanks for “the good events” that had happened during that day.”

She continues,” When I changed my thoughts, I became a magnet attracting better things into my life.” Her new positive attitude, relaxed her enough to handle the difficult situations in her life.

 Also begin and end your day with positive humor!

 Write down any humorous stories, anecdotes, and jokes you hear and read during your day in your “humor journal” to re-read latter and share with family and friends to lower your stress and bring a smile to your face.

It takes work to be happy!

Let’s test out a little humor:

Actress and comedian, Carol Burnett stepped out of a cab one day and caught her coat in the door. The driver was unaware of her plight and slowly began to edge out into the traffic. To keep from being pulled off her feet, the comedienne had to run alongside the cab, down the block. A passerby noticed her predicament and quickly alerted the driver. He stopped, jumped out, and released Miss Burnett’s coat. “Are you all right?” he asked anxiously.” 

“Yes,” she gasped, “but how much more do I owe you?” (From “Great Leaders Wanted” by Doug Dickerson)

Humor helps to keep one’s composure during difficult times! And helps to build confidence!

What can you do each day to build a positive mindset?

1)   Zig Ziglar, “Be a “Good-Finder”…look for the good in yourself and others. Words are powerful! Begin by saying positive motivational words to yourself and give sincere compliments to others!

2)   Diely Pichardo -Johansson, M.D., Change your attitude to one of gratitude. In your “Gratitude Journal.”    Write down each day, what went well for you. Change your mood to a positive one!

3)   Begin writing humorous stories in your Humor Notebook so you can begin and end your day by reading something humorous!

How can you help yourself and others to be their best self?

By giving them honest sincere compliments. 

Remember “stop and think before you speak.” Smile and say positive uplifting words.

Be a builder, a lifter, and developer of people! Be a good finder!

Madeline Frank, Ph.D., is an Best Selling Author, speaker, business owner, teacher, concert artist, and parent. She helps businesses and organizations “Tune Up their Business”. Her observations show you the blue prints necessary to improve and keep your business successful. Her latest book “Leadership On A Shoestring Budget” is available everywhere books are sold. If you need a virtual speaker contact Madeline at:

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