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Do You Sing for Others or for Yourself?

The world does not revolve around you! Have you ever had a conversation with another person and you could not get in a word as they were only interested in talking about themselves? Did you ever hear a speech that was supposed to be helping the audience learn to do something better and the speaker was stuck on talking about their problems?

Do you remember who Scrooge was?

Scrooge forgot about everyone else too! Charles Dickens wrote his classic story “A Christmas Carol” in 1843. Dickens describes Ebenezer Scrooge as “The cold within him froze his old features, nipped his pointed nose, made his eyes red, his thin lips blue, and he spoke out shrewdly in his grating voice.” The “Ghosts of Christmas” visited Scrooge’s past, present, and future. Over the course of the story Scrooge sees what he has become and decides to change.

Today Scrooge represents a “miserly” person who does not care about others. He or she is self –absorbed and selfish and is only concerned about him or her self. When this person decides to change and concentrated on helping others their life takes on one of hope and happiness!

How would you like to connect better with your family, friends, co-workers, and your schoolmates?

If you want to connect with others you have to listen to them, care about them, and be concerned about their welfare. Zig Zigler said it best; “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”

Life is all about connecting with others. A lady in the British aristocracy had dinner one night with Prime Minister Gladstone and on another night with Prime Minister Disraeli.

She was asked what she thought of these two gentlemen.

She said, “When I left the dining room after sitting next to Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But when I sat next to Disraeli I left feeling that I was the cleverest woman.”

Prime Minister Disraeli was a good listener and was interested in knowing all about the person sitting beside him. He made everyone he came in contact with feel they were “the cleverest” and “most important person” in the room. Prime Minister Gladstone was only interested in himself.

Wouldn’t you like to connect with others just like Prime Minister Disraeli?

Dale Carnegie wrote “How to Win friends and Influence People”. He said, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” He also said, “Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours.”

What are the 3 keys for removing the “Me, Me, Me” from your vocabulary to be like Prime Minister Disraeli and Dale Carnegie in connecting with others?

1)   As Dale Carnegie said, “Smile. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.”

2)   Prime Minister Disraeli made everyone he came in contact with feel they were “the cleverest” and most important person in the room by being interested in them.

3)   Dale Carnegie said, “Give honest, sincere appreciation. Appreciation builds our image faster than any other practice … the success of every job demands cooperation and effort from others … people contribute to our success as much as we contribute to theirs.”

By following these three keys for connecting with others you too will become a happier, healthier person full of hope and will never be in a room again with a “Me, Me, Me” person!



Madeline Frank, Ph.D., DTM, and Certified World Class Speaking Coach is an Best Selling Author, John Maxwell Team Member, sought after speaker, business owner, motivational teacher, researcher, and concert artist. She helps businesses and organizations “Tune Up their Businesses”. Her innovative observations show you the blue prints necessary to improve and keep your business successful.She writes a monthly newsletter “Madeline’s Monthly article & Musical Tips Blog” and a monthly radio show “Madeline’s One Minute Musical Radio Show”. She has just published her new book “Leadership On A Shoestring Budget” available through Amazon & Kindle.

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